Saturday, November 23, 2019

Our Caregivers Bill in Maine

On June 28th of this year Maine Governor Janet Mills signed into law "Resolve, Directing the Department of Health and Human Services To Allow Spouses To Provide Home and Community-based Services to Eligible MaineCare Members".  The bill was inspired by my wife and Co-Founder of The Hope-JG Foundation, Linda Gregoire and was Sponsored by State Representative Patrick Corey. 

As many ALS families have discovered, Medicaid has a series of programs which fall under the umbrella of Community Based Services. Essentially, these programs encourage and enable families to keep a homebound patient at home. The alternative is to place their loved one in a Long Term Care (LTC) facility which arguably has a negative impact on the quality of life of the patient and the famIly. And it saves the State millions of dollars because Mainecare doesn’t have to pay an LTC facility’s fees for a room, meals, supplies, etc. 

The specific program I’m in, for example, is the Participant Directed Option (PDO). I am allotted a specific number of hours each week,  to hire personal assistants for my care. Previously I could hire any relatives except my wife. Spouses are specifically excluded by ruling of the Centers for Medicare and Medicaid (CMS), unless the State applies for a waiver. Our bill does that. Until our bill was signed in June only 17 states had similar legislation.  

As with other terminal diseases, ALS impacts the entire family. Not long after my ALS diagnosis, I was forced to walk away from my small business. As a small start-up, I had no retirement plan or other benefits to bring with me. I was actually blessed to have my business partner buy my interest in the firm, relieving me of a massive debt load. SSDI is my only source of income. Furthermore, Linda has had to severely cut back her work schedule in order to direct my care and care for me during the many hours, particularly evenings and weekends, when no one else is here. Linda averages about 4 hours of sleep each night, partly to complete household chores which I used to do and also because I often wake at night with a toileting need which requires assistance.  ALS is a humbling disease for both patient and caregiver. 

 Every Family Caregiver like Linda is faced with massive physical, financial and psychological burdens, even with the extra hands which PDO provides. 

The workload of Family Caregivers at least doubles, since the spouse is no longer able to "pull his/her share of the load".  In addition to the work she did to clean our house, laundry, etc., Linda now does home repairs, yard work and everything I did - including cooking for one. Not long ago, a component of my wheelchair came loose. Linda grabbed her now legendary purple tool kit and, in her pink pajamas at 10 PM, troubleshot the problem and made the repair.  .

Family Caregivers invariably lose income, Social Security credit, health insurance (Linda hasn't thad Mainecare since our son graduated High School.. He graduated from college two years ago If she becomes ill because something that has been ignored over four years, my likelihood of survival decreases dramatically.  

Her access to educational opportunities, to prepare for life after my eventual demise, are limited due to income and time constraints.  Family Caregivers deserve access to innovative educational opportunities  to prepare them to be productive, tax paying citizens after their caregiving days are done.  Without this kind of support, the.odds of Family. Caregivers becoming a beneficiary of the DHHS system increase dramatically.  What is the cost to the state of just 10 Family Caregivers are forced into welfare instead of being launched into the workforce?

Linda and I have been counseled by multiple Social Workers and Case Managers, to get divorced. “It’s only on paper.” they say. It is unimaginable to us, that the government not only tolerates, but endorses programs and benefits which encourage – and in some cases, leave married couples no choice other than, the dissolution of a marriage. .. Yet, in some cases it’s a matter of financial survival.    Linda could have health insurance and probably other forms of government assistance if we divorced “on paper”. I respectfully submit, if it’s just a matter of paperwork, any laws or regulations that require the dissolution of marriage in order to qualify for Medicaid,  be changed. It’s time for our social service rules, regulations and laws to align with the moral foundation of this great country.

Spouses of participants in  self directed home care programs, are de facto Natural Caregivers. With few exceptions, husbands and wives abandon careers, social connections, personal aspirations and financial security In order to care for their ailing spouse. They sacrifice all this and much more in exchange for an often thankless and always overlooked, 24/7 job. A job rooted in love, but personally physically and emotionally.all consuming – and in the process they-save their State money. 

Because of this dedication to their spouse and the personal sacrifice they invariably make, Family Caregivers should be able to be paid the equivalent of a fast food wage - the PDO pays $12.75/hour.  Linda has slept on our living room sofa for 5 years, which is the time I haven’t been able to get upstairs and in bed. She wakes with backaches and usually goes to bed with a headache. She does more physical labor by 11 AM than most people do all day. Unfortunately, Linda’s (while special to me) story is typical of Family Caregivers everywhere. 

We’re proud to have had a hand in this important legislation for Maine Caregivers. But it’s just a first step...stay tuned. 

Saturday, October 19, 2019

There’s Always Hope-A #GivingTuesday Message

NOTE: The Hope-JG Foundation kicked off our #GivingTuesday Campaign (December 3rd) this week. As we move into the  “stretch run” for fundraising for 2019, I can think of no better message to send than this inspired Facebook post written by the love of my life and Co-Founder of the Foundation, Linda Gregoire. Please consider joining our growing family of recurring donors by visiting:

I’m letting John sleep in a little later today . He’s very peaceful despite the whooshing  sound of his trilogy (a machine that forces air in his lungs and helps get rid of CO2) it’s not his favorite way to sleep but it’s benefits are worth it. 

He’s  been working hard on several  projects and has required a lot of back and forth with emails, which as of late take more and more time and energy to compose. But with one good typing finger doing the work, he perseveres. I marvel as I see him sitting in his wheelchair hooked up to his feed,  continuing to be productive  in meeting the needs of others. I say that he does what he does not for “the praise or glory”...that is for God.  But because God’s given him, after almost 12 years, the strength to do what he does every day. 

John’s not alone. We’ve seen some of the strongest advocates for ALS  be those that are affected by the very same disease. Our Foundation is a means to fill a need we saw many years ago when we planted the seed of Hope-JG. When a thought crosses your mind and is buried in your heart, you know you need to nurture it and see where it will take you. 

It’s been 5+ years since we decided that we knew all too well the challenges of living with ALS and there must have been a better way to help those in need. It’s not an easy task always...heartbreaking most of the time to hear stories of the needs. Basic needs that are no longer “basic”. Accessibility in and out of the home. Accessibility to a bathroom, nutritious food once a feeding tube is placed. The ability to still communicate once your speaking voice is gone or the ability for a family to have a way to be transported and included in a family reunion. Once bound to a wheelchair these basics are no longer “basic”. They are challenges that need to be met with dignity and love from knowing hearts. 

Yes, we’re a Foundation with all the administrative, legal and financial stuff that goes with running a foundation. Thank God for our amazing Board. Ultimately we want to be the ALS family member that reaches out and comes along side a pALS facing these “mountains” and move those mountains. 

I watched yesterday as John emailed with a company we collaborate with that he pursued until  they caught the vision of how they could help. And later in the day I helped him Skype with another person we have worked with and now have a valued friendship with after seeing her speak on TedTalks. (She is creating “voices for those without voices”.) Then back to his email with one finger to coordinate a upcoming accessibility project for a pALS.

And that was just yesterday. I share all this as his proud wife, as I watched this morning a flood of ‘Likes’ to our foundation page ( (Thank you!)  This is never about us...we can’t do this without all your support. This is also about what you can accomplish when a seed is buried in your heart,  no matter what your circumstances are. Able  bodied or challenged, pursue that seed until it grows and bears fruit. 

When John was diagnosed 12 years ago, I knew that wasn’t the end of our story. I knew it was an open door to walk through to see what God had in the other side for us. We refused to accept his life was over before its  time. God is faithful if we trust Him and give it all to Him. It’s been quite an experience and we’ve grown personally from it. We’ve walked along side those God has given us to help, sharing their needs and their what may appear to be a hopeless situation, there’s always hope!

 Unfortunately when you are diagnosed with a disease like ALS and you begin to have needs, that’s when some of the hardest battles start. The needs are great and Insurance doesn’t  always meet such profound needs. 

So as he wakes up and our day starts with “getting him going”, he’s ready to get back at it. You may wonder...why? Because once you know what this life with ALS is and you have the ability to do something, you must do your part to make this horrible disease easier. We are the tiniest cog in a huge wheel trying to change the disease. We have fellow warriors fighting for a cure, to change laws to try drugs that have the potential to reverse this disease. Others raising awareness and funds to support a cure. Foundations run by family members like ours trying to fight back when ALS walks in and tries to steal your life.  It’s all needed. It all helps. Every bucket of ice dumped,  every golf scramble attended, every fundraiser donated to could be the one that holds the cure or provides help that’s desperately needed. 

The one thing we’ve seen every time we’ve met a new patient is “gratitude” to those they have never met. If you’ve donated or helped in any way, thank you! While John and I may be the faces of Hope-JG, as many others like us are working to change ALS are the faces of ALS, it’s your generous hearts that have made everything possible. 

Thank you and God bless you. Today’s another day to change ALS, one project and one person at a time ❤️⚓️ There’s always hope! 

Linda Gregoire 

Friday, May 31, 2019

Life With ALS: Reality Check


ALS Awareness Month Day 28: Reality Check Warning - This is a challenging post to write as Linda and I try to put a positive face on everything. Linda didn’t want to share this at all   This isn’t easy or pretty. There’s a fine line between positivity and sugarcoating. This is the reality of ALS for us and other ALS families everywhere  

About 3 months ago, we were faced with the reality that trying to transfer to our downstairs toilet, which was always more dangerous for both of us than we’d admit, was now impossible. Another “new normal” was staring us, unflinchingly in the face.

Because I’m tube fed and my formula is Liquid Hope, a vegan, organic  real food formula, my bathroom visits are at least daily - so we had no time to waste coming up with an alternative. Linda is nothing if not resourceful. It took her minutes to to say “Let’s try this.” And we have - for three months.

The Dining Room where we’ve shared family holidays from Thanksgiving to Christmas and birthdays has become a catch all for over 11 years of insurance paperwork and foundation displays. The room that holds so many memories for our family, the table where our boys left Christmas cookies for Santa, has become what you see pictured below.

The routine: When the need arises, Linda preps the commode chair and wheels it into the Dining Room. She then puts on my AFO’s (leg braces) so I can stand.  I roll into the Dining Room, position my wheelchair facing the side of the staircase. Using the stair balusters as hand grips to lift myself to standing (with help from Linda). I stand,, Linda moves my power chair to one side, grabs the commode chair and rolls it in back of me, locks the wheels and I sit. After clean up, the process reverses. Obviously there is a lot more unsavory  clean up since we don’t just flush the toilet. That’s more on Linda and I’ll leave that to your imagination.. Don’t know how she does it - even though I see it every day.

I’ve said and written many times before, that ALS is a humbling disease. It’s humbling for the patient who, because of ever diminishing motor skills is able to do  less for themselves almost daily. But it’s humbling for the all  too often forgotten caregiver too.  Without getting too graphic,  think about what Linda needs to do clean me. Humbling for her. And for me, while I detest the continued loss of control, it reinforces to me the strength and the love she shows me – Every.   Single. Day. Powerful stuff, not for the faint of heart or the weak of spirit.

If you have relatives, friends, co-workers or even “church friends” you only see on Sundays with ALS, don’t be fooled by their smiles. And don’t be put off if they’re NOT smiling. Life with ALS is a daily reality check.

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Thursday, January 3, 2019

We Are Thankful for 3 Amazing Women


 As we close out 2018 and move into a new year, we’re thankful for many things. We’re eternally thankful for every person who donated money of any amount. We’re especially thankful to every member of our growing $10 For pALS Family ( $10 each month, multiplied can sustain our Helping Hands fund which provides a variety of needed items to families fighting ALS. Please consider joining. 
On a personal note: I’m humbled and thankful for breaking through the 11 year mark with ALS with my amazing wife, caregiver and Co-Fouñder Linda. There’s no question that I wouldn’t be here and this foundation wouldn’t exist without her tenacity, instincts, passion and boundless love. 

We’re also thankful for our seven Innovators   Each of these individuals brings a unique perspective and life experience to their individual area of expertise. They also share one common trait - a passion to help the hurting.

We’re particularly thankful that three of the seven Innovators are strong, visionary women. We were just notified that Robin Gentry-McGee, Founder and CEO of  Functional Formularies ( was just named as one of 35 World Changing Women In Conscious Business (#27 in this article).( 

 A common trait Robin shares with her sister Innovators is refusing to accept the status quo for hurting people. All three have specific life experiences that were  “lightbulb moments” which inspired their innovations. 

For Robin, her Father sustained a traumatic brain injury and Doctors painted a bleak picture for his recovery.  He was in a coma and required tube feeding. During a hospital visit Robin read the ingredient list on her Dad’s
formula package. That was her lightbulb moment. The unfortunate standard of care in hospitals for tube fed formulas are formulas which are loaded with sugars, cheap carbs and artificial vitamins.

As a trained Chef who had worked only with organic foods, Robin knew instinctively her Dad needed real food to have any chance for recovery.  After much experimentation in her home kitchen Robin found a combination of legumes,  vegetables, oils, spices and other real food ingredients that replaced the hospital formula.  Her Father improved   So much improvement that the day cane where her Dad stood up and shook the hand of one of the Doctors who told Robin he’d never recover   The Doctor told Robin “What you done here is a miracle.”  Food as medicine - what a concept.  Robin launched Functional Formularies and over just five years has helped thousands of adults and children improve their quality of life with her products Liquid Hope & Nourish.  

Then we have Dr. Rupal Patel, Founder and CEO of VocalID ( ). Rupal was teaching speech language pathology  and associated curricula at Northeastern University when she had her lightbulb moment.  Rupal was at a Conference with other educators, clinicians and patients. When she heard conversations involving speech impaired patients “speaking” using devices pre-loaded with synthetic voices. It struck her that many of the patients, whether a  12 year old girl or a 55 year old man, were often using the same voice.  As Rupal says in her first TED Talk: “We  wouldn’t dream of giving a prosthetic leg of a grown  man to a young girl. Why then, the same prosthetic voice? I wanted to do something about this.” 

The result was the creation of a unique process of combining digital recordings of a healthy donor voice with any sound from the recipient/patient.  The product of the process is a synthetic voice that contains the “vocal DNA” of the patient with the vocal clarity of the donor. A voice that  is unique to that individual. A voice that makes them distinctive - again. 

Rupal has been recognized in a number of publications including  Wired, the Wall Street Journal, NPR and more. She was also recognized as a “Top Women in Cloud” by CloudNOW. (

Our newest Innovator is Julie Lineberger, Founder and CEO of WheelPad  ( Julie’s lightbulb moment came as a result of a tragic accident that left her Godson, Riley Poor, a tetraplegic.    After Riley’s rehabilitation he had a challenging time finding an accessible apartment. When he decided to buy a house, he worked with Julie and her husband Joe’s firm Linesync Architecture to make the home accessible   From the time of Riley’s accident to completion of the home renovations was three years. But not everyone in Riley’s situation is related to an architect. 

This experience caused Julie to work with Riley and Joe  to develop a solution for others who would find themselves in a similar position.  The result is WheelPad is an eco-friendly 200 square foot universally accessible modular addition (bed & bath) that can be temporarily or permanently attached to an existing home. 

Julie has been recognized as a Top Socialpreneur by  Leading Women Entrepreneur and Women’s Day Magazine  (

We are honored to be associated with these amazing women. We wish them all the best in 2019. We thank them for their collective passion, heart but most of all, for their friendship.        

Monday, December 18, 2017

Ten Christmases and Counting

December 17th, 2007

Ten years ago this December 17th Linda and i took a train from Portland to Boston to get the final word on a preliminary diagnosis given by a Neurologist in Maine. Ir had snowed the night before and the sun was bright In the frigid sky, creating postcard worthy scenes on the train ride.

The train was full of light hearted Christmas shoppers looking forward to a day of fun with friends and family. The train stopped somewhere in New Hampshire to de-ice the brakes and a spontaneous choir  of Christmas carols started. Linda and I managed half hearted smiles – more for the people around us than out of real joy. No one else knew our different agenda for the day. No one except perhaps the Conductor. He knew me by face from my many business trips to Boston.  The difference was on this trip I didn’t have my laptop case, Linda was with me – and I was walking with a cane. I’m sure he was accustomed to seeing families from Maine travel to one of Boston’s many world class hospitals for treatment  or a consult. He was particularly attentive and accommodating on this trip.

We got the diagnosis confirmation from  the Specialist at St. Elizabeth’s In a fairly dispassionate and matter of fact way. Delivered in a deadpan, almost casual style, the doctor said “Its definitely ALS. Unfortunately, it’s Bulbar Onset, which is the most aggressive form. You probably have 18 to 24 months. Max out your credit cards, get you affairs in order and do the things you’ve always wanted to do. And DON’T try any alternative treatments. Any questions?.”

Before we knew it, we found ourselves on the sidewalk outside the hospital entrance. It was then and there, in that moment when we could have dissolved into tears of despair, where all  63 inches of my  beautiful bride stood firmly between me and the forces of hell (and it would be the first time of many over the next decade). She stomped her foot on the frozen ground and shouted “No! That man doesn’t know what will happen to you! Only .God knows!” From that day to today, we’ve never accepted negative or pessimistic words from any man or woman

There are far too many stories to tell in less than a decent sized book. Stories of legitimate miracles. Stories of despair, frustration, laughter, joy and anger. (In spite of my public persona, I’m no peach to live with.)   But most of all,  we have stories of Hope. Not the watered down version of Hope we all often use. The “I hope I get a raise.” or  “I hope I win the lottery.” The Hope we hold close comes from the Bible. Hope is an expectation of good things to come.

Hope has become our personal mantra, in large part thanks to Linda. Except for infrequent hotel stays, she hasn’t slept in a bed in over four years. And it’s not a sleep sofa. She sleeps on the sofa cushions near my recliner where I sleep. She probably hasn’t had a full night’s sleep in over seven years. She sleeps with one eye open in  case I need a urinal or if my Trilogy alarms. It may be the cruelest part of ALS that caregiver spouses are on call 24/7. Even with the help we get, there’s always something she can find to do. Yet, she carries Hope with her like sword everywhere.

Caregiving spouses like Linda, literally have the weight of the world on their shoulders. Linda has a lavender tool kit I bought her a few Christmas’s ago. With that kit and some help from YouTube she’s repaired toilets, faucets, made car repairs ad more – all things I should be doing. And Hope is in her tool kit.

So if you have friends battling an incurable Disease, here’s what you can do: Take care of the Caregiver.

Help can take a variety of forms   ALS is a particularly isolating disease for Caregivers. Linda and I used to chat for hours. I haven’t spoken without typing first, for seven years. Small Talk is tough  when the spontaneity is losth.   A phone call to just chat or let the Caregiver just talk,  can be priceless. Offer help organizing a closet, or papers   The key is, be prepared to let them set the agenda. Come with Ideas but don’t add to the daily stress by dictating your availability.  Be flexible.

Yes, this year will be my tenth Christmas since Linda and I heard that doctor tell us I had, at best, two years to live. We’ve been blessed  for sure.  We’re also keenly aware of the constant cadence of time as we see posts, even today on social media, that ALS has taken another precious soul. Take heart my friends. Hope is real. Hope is yours. There is always Hope.

Ten years ago, eight days before my first Christmas with ALS, Linda stepped between me and the forces  of hell – and like so many other Caregiving spouses, she’s never stepped away.   If you know a Caregiver, give them a call just to chat or listen. Better yet, arrange a time for a brief visit…and give them a hug.

Merry Christmas to the love of my life and Caregivers everywhere

Thursday, December 7, 2017

12 Days Of Hope Contest!

The Hope-JG Foundation is delighted to join out Innovator, Functional Formularies, in announcing their “12 Days Of Giving Hope” gratitude giveaway. Details below. If you or a loved one use enteral formula, this is your chance to win Liquid Hope for Christmas!  Spread the word and join us and Functional Formularies thank their customers and welcome new families to a Christmas Of Hope. Merry Christmas.
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We are excited to announce the biggest Gratitude Giveaway we have EVER done! 
"12 Days of Giving HOPE!"

Our hearts are so full as we look back over the last year. You, Our Community of Hope, are so dear to us. We sincerely appreciate the time you take to share pictures, videos and updates of your loved ones with us

With our “12 Days of Giving Hope” it is our heart’s desire to give back to you.

At the end of each day from December 5th through December 17th, we will choose ONE winner to win and entire prize package that includes: (1) a CASE of Liquid Hope or Nourish, (2) a signed copy of Robin Gentry McGee's book, "A Turn for the Worst: Traumatic Brain Injury and a Daughter's Search for Answers", and (3) our ever-popular tote bag!

A total of TWELVE winners for this giveaway! To participate, please post a photo or video and tell us what you are grateful for. Winners will be chosen by

BONUS GIVEAWAY! On the final day, a drawing will also be held from ALL of the submissions to win a 6 month supply of Liquid Hope or Nourish (limit 4 cases maximum per month)

As always, sharing your post/photo with us gives us permission to repost on Facebook and other social media channels.

Gratitude -- It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend." -Melody Beattie.

Thursday, November 23, 2017

Thanksgiving Perspective

“Who’s around the table is more important than what’s on the table.” 

By Guest Blogger Linda Gregoire

I was asked yesterday by a caregiver of a new tube feeder how we handle holidays that are celebrated with food. We all want to do whatever we can for our loved ones with a feeding tube to make life easier and normal , so I really appreciated her thoughtful question . 

The last 10 Thanksgivings we’ve been faced with small incremental changes that we’ve adapted to because that’s what you have to do with ALS. I always say “if you don’t go with the flow, you get caught in the rip tide” if anyone has had the experience of a rip tide you know what I mean..... the more you try to fight it the worse it gets, if you trust and swim in the flow you’ll be safe. So this morning after I started John’s feed and he fell asleep peacefully while his tummy was being filled , I realized how at peace he is with his current situation. In the beginning with his new tube , we struggled until we got him on a healthy formula. He still ate for pleasure by mouth, so a bowl of .pistachio ice cream was eaten while formula was finding its way into his tummy. He had the best of both worlds haha.  

I think the two saddest days for him was when he could no longer eat steak,  one of his favorite meals . That came early on , as it’s so hard to chew. The second was about a year ago when he would sneak a hand cut French fry when Matt and I would have an Elevation Burger . He choked so bad I almost thought of calling for help.  Once the choking passed he looked at me and shock his head “no” . I asked no  more for now ..... or no more forever ? Tears welled in his eyes and I knew more forever and we both cried. The one thing he still can take by mouth and never chokes on is a small piece of communion bread and a sip of “wine” (grape juice) at church and God willing he’ll be able to forever. 

So as Thanksgiving approaches , it made me think how we’ve handled the “Holiday  meal” .  We gather at my sister’s with as many family, friends and dogs as we can squeeze into her home ....which can be 20-25 people and up to 9 dogs . The food has been mostly grown/ raised  by my sister and brother in law which is a labor of love . It’s prepared with everyone in mind ....oyster stuffing for some and regular stuffing for the rest of us 😉.  We all share in bringing what we can . We enjoy each other’s company and catch up on life . Then we gather at the table , elbow to elbow , we remember our family that’s with us in spirit and give thanks for those we still have  with us to love . John is seated at the table with his own spot  and place card as he enjoys “his dinner”  too . He’s  the only one that has  his electronic device at the table because  it’s for speaking ......and he’s the self appointed one to keep track of the football game for the entire table 🏈. That’s as important as cooking the turkey haha . We chat , pass food, laugh and oh yes we eat . Thanksgiving dinner is more about who’s around the table then what’s on the table. We feed our bodies and enjoy the food , but more importantly we feed our souls with love and thanks for all we have.

So for all our tube feeders, join in the feast, give thanks and feed your soul on love and life ❤️ . This is what I’m grateful for everyday of the year not just the days of November....Happy thanksgiving to you all  and God  bless you all .

NOTE:  November 28th is Giving Tuesday. If you’d like to support the work of The Hope-JG Foundation supporting families with ALS this holiday season, please donate at: or by starting a campaign choosing us as the designated charity. Happy Thanksgiving!